As we’ve discussed, deciding to have sex is a big decision.  Maybe, it isn’t the right decision for you.  And, as I’m sure you’ve heard before, the safest sex is no sex.  Here are some things to think about if practicing abstinence is the way for you.
     First of all, practicing abstinence is a very personal decision, but it can be challenging when you are in a relationship.  Once you make your decision to abstain, you need to set boundaries for yourself so that you will be able to deal with any temptations that may come along.  Also, you will have to discuss your decision with any partners you have, so that they are well aware of your stance before they put you in a “tempting” situation.  But remember any partner that would leave you just because you wouldn’t have sex, is probably not mature enough to be having sex anyway.
     In the world of MTV videos, where every other woman and man seems to be half naked, sex seems to surround us.  It may seem as though everyone is having sex-not so!  Many students choose to abstain from sex for various reasons, whether it is religious in nature, health related, or simply what is best for them.  You are not alone!
     Once you have committed yourself to practicing abstinence until you are married, here are some steps from the article, “How to say ‘No Thanks’ to sex,” by Celine Ohanians on drdrew.com, that may help you stick to your decision:

 1.  Why have you decided to abstain?  What are the guiding factors in your decision?  Would others be able to change your mind?
 2.  Remind yourself that you alone are responsible for your body and that you can control your actions.
 3.  Don’t make “outs” for your decision.  For example, is “I’ll abstain from sex until I meet the person” really an excuse you are ready to live with?
 4.  Try to go out with others who share your beliefs and views.
 5.  Be realistic in your thinking.  Thinking you are going to marry someone and actually marrying someone are two different things.
 6.  People make mistakes.  If you give in one day, don’t give in for good.  Everyday is a new day to meet the challenge you have chosen to set for yourself.
 7.  Remember-abstinence is not forever.  You, like many others, are just waiting for what’s best for you.
 
Practicing abstinence may seem lonely at times and difficult.  But, remember your reasons for abstaining and know that you are WORTH THE WAIT!

Source: Celine Ohanians, "How to say 'No Thanks' to sex," drdrew.com