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Golden Rules for Getting Along With Your Roommate
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GOLDEN RULES FOR GETTING ALONG WITH YOUR ROOMMATE

1.  Try to get to know each other.
2.  Don’t expect too much…roommates don’t have to be best friends.  Getting along with each other is all that is necessary.
3.  Be open – ask, listen, discuss.  Don’t wait until things get out of hand.  If you are not open with your roommate, your frustration may keep building until you blow up and say things you really don’t mean.  This could result in hurt feelings.  Before it gets to that point, talk it out.  Tell your roommate in a mature fashion what is bothering you and help her or him understand why.
4.  Be sensitive to each other’s moods, everybody had bad days, so try to understand when your roommate has one, too.
5.  Share what you can and clearly state what you are not comfortable sharing.
6.  The room belongs to both of you.  Decorate together so it meets both of your needs.
7.  When things can’t be worked out between the two of you, seek assistance from someone else, such as your RA.
8.  Roommates can be fun and they sure can help ease the loneliness we all feel sometimes.  Share successes, say thank you, show common courtesy, and let the other person knew when things are going right, as well as when things are going wrong.

Adapted from to Southwest Missouri State University

Tips to Consider Before Things Get Out of Hand...

Talking- Problems often involve a lack of communication.
Listening- Strive for understanding by listening for words and identifying feelings.
Flexibility- Expect contradictions and be flexible with yourself and others.
Understanding- Do not expect your roommate to view things as you do.
Cooperation- This joint experience requires honesty and attempts to make the relationship work.
Collaboration- Living with another person challenges you to find ways in which all involved can be winners.
Communicate- Express yourself clearly- especially your needs in a direct, assertive manner- avoiding sarcasm and exaggeration.

More Tips to Consider Before Things Get Out of Hand...

Taking some time to cool off (i.e. taking a walk).

Dealing  with it immediately -- don’t let it linger.

Re-visiting your Roommate Contract.  If you haven’t done one- do it!

Remembering that the living space is both of yours.

Visiting the Roommate Bill of Rights

Acknowledging you each have your own schedule and demands placed on you.
 

Adapted from the Department of Housing, University of Georgia, A Guide to Roommate Relations

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